This is a story I found very recently in a Tinkle. I loved it so much that I thought I’d share it with all of you. It was supposedly written by some German author. So, I don’t deserve any originality credits for this. ;).

Neighbours
Georgv and Uhrlich were two boys from two very rich and powerful families in Germany. Their properties were next to each other separated by a patch of forest. Due to the fight for the ownership of this patch of forest, there was severe enmity between the two families, and it showed itself in Georgv and Uhrlich too.
They grew up hating each other and when they inherited their respective properties, their hatred only intensified. If anyone related to the other family was found, they were imprisoned without water or food until proper ransom was paid.
One night, Georgv was having his supper with his wife. A storm was building up. Suddenly, a sound which sounded like a gunshot pierced the silence of the night. Read the rest of this entry »

I have find an interesting article, here is it.

Dating and marriage is different than it was twenty years ago. In today’s society, more than 50% of all marriages fail for one reason or another. Just thinking about that makes “commitment” seem scary. It seems that when relationships are faced with challenges, people quit trying. Dating is more like a marathon, trying to date as many people as possible, instead of taking time to get to know someone at a deeper level. For married couples, divorce is not biased. Whether married for thirty years or eight months, the outcome can be the same.

The fact is that relationships are hard. Things do not always go perfectly, fighting does occur, and it takes a 100% commitment from both parties to make it a success. Often when people break off a relationship, they feel as though something is missing. The “spark” has gone, leaving one or both people feeling inadequate and unfulfilled.

However, even though the odds are not very good, healthy and long-lasting relationships are definitely possible and proven by many people. Look at Paul Newman and Joanne Woodard, Danny Devito and Rhea Perlman, or Nancy and Ronald Regan. What secrets do they possess? The answer is that they all work hard at their relationship. They made a decision of choosing to love their mate rather than relying on the “warm and fuzzy” feelings, which everyone knows will fade. By making love a choice you are making a decision that even in the bad times, you stick it out.

Think of it like choosing a car. You pick out the make, model, year, color, and features that you believe are best for you. After driving your car for a couple of months, you realize that perhaps you should have purchased a larger car, or that maybe the leather seats would have been better, or on hot sunny days, a sunroof would have been nice. However, it is now too late so you choose to keep your car and make it work. It is the same for marriage. Not everything will be perfect, and there will be major obstacles to overcome, but you have made your decision and now you must choose to make it work.

There are hundreds of things you can do to better your relationship. To help get you headed in the right direction, we have chosen 101 ways to build, strengthen, and enhance your relationship.

Remember, little steps taken every day will add up to big successes.

1. Start Over
When couples first get together, everything is new and exciting. They overlook the little annoying things the other person does. However, after time, the nagging starts, instead of hearing, “You look beautiful,” they might hear “Why are you wearing that shirt?”

If this sounds like your relationship, first, the two of you need to sit down and be honest that things have changed. Identify the things each other did in the beginning of the relationship that created the attraction in the first place. Then together, make a commitment to start over. The truth is, both of you will have to work on this. It will not automatically be easy but it is possible. Start by forgiving each other, forgetting the past, and then start over with the flirtation. Focus only on the special things your mate does and relearn to put the unimportant things aside. It will take some time so be patient.
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Women, stop bullying men into talking about feelings.
Men, don’t act exasperated when women express emotions.

Insisting on having ANYTHING all our own way is baby stuff!
Get mature and learn to compromise on the issue of expression of feelings.

We can find a middle ground so that men and women can enjoy each other more. Both sexes can get more out of relationships.

Most of us learn best from our experiences. So, it’s time for us to stop
arguing about who is right—more expression of feeling or less—and begin
learning by trying out the other’s ways.
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I have find an interesting article writen by Dr. Joyce Brothers and decide to share it with you.

Have you ever known a married couple that just didn’t seem as though they should fit together–yet they are both happy in the marriage, and you can’t figure out why?

I know of one couple: He is a burly ex-athlete who, in addition to being a successful salesman, coached Little League, was active in his Rotary Club and played golf every Saturday with friends. Meanwhile, his wife is petite, quiet and a complete homebody. She doesn’t even like to go out to dinner.

What mysterious force drives us into the arms of one person, while pushing us away from another who might appear equally desirable to any unbiased observer?

Of the many factors influencing our idea of the perfect mate, one of the most telling, according to John Money, professor emeritus of medical psychology and pediatrics at Johns Hopkins University, is what he calls our ‘lovemap’–a group of messages encoded in our brains that describes our likes and dislikes. It shows our preferences in hair and eye color, in voice, smell, body build. It also records the kind of personality that appeals to us, whether it’s the warm and friendly type or the strong, silent type.

In short, we fall for and pursue those people who most clearly fit our lovemap. And this lovemap is largely determined in childhood. By age eight, the pattern for our ideal mate has already begun to float around in our brains.

When I lecture, I often ask couples in the audience what drew them to their dates or mates. Answers range from ‘She’s strong and independent’ and ‘I go for redheads’ to ‘I love his sense of humor’ and ‘That crooked smile, that’s what did it.’

I believe what they say. But I also know that if I were to ask those same men and women to describe their mothers, there would be many similarities between their ideal mates and their moms. Yes, our mothers–the first real love of our lives–write a significant portion of our lovemap.

When we’re little, our mother is the center of our attention, and we are the center of hers. So our mother’s characteristics leave an indelible impression, and we are forever after attracted to people with her facial features, body type, personality, even sense of humor. If our mother was warm and giving, as adults we tend to be attracted to people who are warm and giving. If our mother was strong and even-tempered, we are going to be attracted to a fair-minded strength in our mates.

The mother has an additional influence on her sons: she not only gives them clues to what they will find attractive in a mate, but also affects how they feel about women in general. So if she is warm and nice, her sons are going to think that’s the way women are. They will likely grow up warm and responsive lovers and also be cooperative around the house. Read the rest of this entry »

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By Steve Nakamoto

Have you ever been in one of those situations where you see a man who catches your eye and causes your heart to skip a beat with excitement? It could be a guy that you see at work, around your neighborhood, in a grocery store, at school, or maybe at your local Starbucks. Regardless of the circumstances, you feel an instant attraction for this man and you’re wondering if he could possibly feel the same about you if given the chance.

Or maybe there is a man you already know who you’ve started to have more intense feelings for. Perhaps you socialize with him regularly or he could be a guy that you’ve gone out on a few dates with. The problem is that you’re starting to fall in love, but you’re afraid of scaring him away if he doesn’t feel the same. What can you do if you find yourself faced with one of these situations? How can you get that special man to notice and pay attention to you? And if everything checks out favorably, how do you get him to fall in love with you? Here are seven critical moves that a woman can make in order to get a man to fall in love with her:

1. Become mega-attractive. Do your best to improve your overall appearance. Be healthy and fit. Make sure that your hair, skin, teeth, and nails are appealing. Practice good hygiene. Ask for professional help in the area of style and dress. Develop self-confidence and raise your self-esteem by raising the self-esteem of others. What ultimately attracts or repeals potential mates is your attitude about yourself. Read the rest of this entry »

Just to be sure it’s memorable -
Record your date
Especially if it’s a walk in the park or your date’s first time bowling.
For example: take a one-time use camera and use it up - then plan to get together next week to look at the photos.

Leave the person you’re dating with a memento or special reminder of your unique date (they’ll think of you every time they see it).

Art-fest
Get together huge sheets of paper and pens, or charcoal, or crayons or watercolors.
Take your date to an art museum or art gallery or art festival.
After, return home (or go to a park with a picnic table or other location) and create your own artwork. Read the rest of this entry »

Single women wonder why they can’t meet a man for drinks, dinner or conversation without him hinting that he’d like to hop into the sack that night. Yet, some men believe they are being honest when they say, “I find you attractive and would like to sleep with you.” However, these men don’t want the committed relationship that most woman seek.

Here’s what women and men have to say about a man’s desire to get intimate too soon:

* Times haven’t changed much: “It’s no different than it was in the ’50s, except the boys then just wanted to pet,” says Giselle Blum, 61, a four-year divorc&eacutee from New Orleans, La. “With a smile, move slightly away and say, ‘I’m not into that.’ Explain briefly what you are looking for — friendship, possible romance. The men who want to go to bed fast aren’t the ones you want.” Read the rest of this entry »