Adultery
I should say sorry for such long absent. I just came back after trip. And i have a lot of interesting to tell you about men and women relationships. About adultery, as for example.
Have you ever thought from what starting matrimonial infidelity, and can we “drunk sex” with somebody unknown call matrimonial infidelity?
Lets look which problem have man and women…
Rose
I have been married for about 4 years now and have a 3-year-old daughter. I never had an orgasm with my husband, but I didn’t really care about this until I gave birth to my daughter. I have started rejecting him and do not want him anymore. I cannot even kiss him any longer. It seems that my sexual desires have increased more than ever before. I fantasize about a guy at workplace who is married too. And I think he also is attracted to me. We have had lunch together a couple of times and I just cannot get him out of my head. I don’t want to hurt my husband because I know that he truly loves me. I wish I can force myself to love him and just be happy, but I can’t because I don’t feel for him anymore. I’m desperate to have sex with this guy, but I don’t want to hurt my husband.
Doug
I am 42, married for 15 years and have two wonderful kids (7 & 3). My wife and I had about 13-14 pretty good years before I began to realize that I wasn’t really in love with her, and maybe never was. For a year a co-worker and I began a relationship. I had always been attracted to her, and I acted on it. Until a month ago we had carried the relationship from some very exciting sex to a very strong emotional relationship. She finally said the words that we should not see each other socially anymore, at least until I decide what to do with my situation at home. I agreed.
My wife and I have been in counseling for about six months, and she doesn’t know about my affair. Neither does the counselor, who recently told her she thought the marriage was over. I am deeply in love with the woman I have had an affair with, and told her so during our last encounter (after we decided to call it off). She told me she loved me, also. Now my wife and I are so distant. I do not find her attractive in the least - and we have not had sex for months. When we did it took all I had to get through it.
My heart hurts badly for the woman I love. She is putting up a strong front and moving on. Even seeing other men. She said in a year, if we are both available, maybe we can try to build a real, honest relationship. My two kids, who are my world, are trapped in between. I don’t know what to do. I love another women, but I still care for my wife - just don’t love her anymore, and not sure I can again. I’ve made these mistakes, but I believe I am truly in love for the very first time in my life.
I think ever person has its own story
Adultery and Society
The seventh commandment says “Thou shalt not commit adultery.” Nevertheless, this sin has been committed throughout history. Today, though, adultery seems more rampant than ever. While tabloid stories report the affairs of politicians, millionaires, and movie stars, films like “The English Patient,” “The Prince of Tides,” or “The Bridges of Madison Country” feature and even promote adultery.
How prevalent is adultery? Two of the most reliable studies come to similar conclusions. The Janus Report on Sexual Behavior estimates that “More than one-third of men and one-quarter of women admit having had at least one extramarital sexual experience.” A survey by the National Opinion Research Center (University of Chicago) found lower percentages: 25 percent of men had been unfaithful and 17 percent of women. Even when these lower ratios are applied to the current adult population, that means that some 19 million husbands and 12 million wives have had an affair.
Whatever the actual numbers, the point to be made is that adultery is much more common than we would like to admit. Family therapist and psychiatrist Frank Pittman believes “There may be as many acts of infidelity in our society as there are traffic accidents.” He further argues that the fact that adultery has become commonplace has altered society’s perception of it. He says, “We won’t go back to the times when adulterers were put in the stocks and publicly humiliated, or become one of those societies and there are many in which adultery is punishable by death. Society in any case is unable to enforce a rule that the majority of people break, and infidelity is so common it is no longer deviant.”
Perhaps you are thinking, “This is just a problem with non-Christians in society. It can’t be a problem in the church. Certainly the moral standards of Christians are higher.” Well, there is growing evidence that adultery is also a problem in Christian circles. An article in a 1997 issue of Newsweek magazine noted that various surveys suggest that as many as 30 percent of male Protestant ministers have had sexual relationships with women other than their wives.
The Journal of Pastoral Care in 1993 reported a survey of Southern Baptist pastors in which 14 percent acknowledged they had engaged in “sexual behavior inappropriate to a minister.” It also reported that 70 percent had counseled at least one woman who had had intercourse with another minister.
A 1988 survey of nearly 1000 Protestant clergy by Leadership magazine found that 12 percent admitted to sexual intercourse outside of marriage, and that 23 percent had done something sexually inappropriate with someone other than their spouse. The researchers also interviewed nearly 1000 subscribers to Christianity Today who were not pastors. They found the numbers were nearly double: 45 percent indicated having done something sexually inappropriate, and 23 percent having extramarital intercourse.
Adultery is in society and is now in the church. Next, we’ll look at some of the myths surrounding extramarital affairs.
to be continue… (article about adultery from leaderu.com)
July 19th, 2007 at 7:22 pm
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